WIW 12/13 Green and cream

Running a few errands after work.
Wearing Black Goat cream cashmere hoodie, Yayoi Kasuma for LV scarf, R13 harem jeans, Balceniaga Ceinture cut out boots, Hansel from Basel green tie-dye socks and Moncler green puffer.
Also, I've decided that I will be participating less in the forum. I even considered stopping all together, but I have been publicising my blog on the outside. I've been active five years here, but in the recently there has seemed to be a shift (and it wasn't just that one thread) in tone. I have purposely withheld brand names and links to products for fear of judgement. 
I'm not a MOTG, an UWP, a knight or a prince. I've been just trying to do my own thing. And currently my own thing seems to be so far off. It makes my style and participation feel less welcome.
I have met some truly wonderful people and real friends here, which is amazing. 

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36 Comments

  • replied 3 years ago

    I am sorry you feel excluded from the forum, but I guess change is normal over the long term, and as one of the few vanguards, you must have seen a lot of change over the last five years. I think it is perfectly fine to not be a UWP or a prince or whatever -- as you have stated yourself, the point of this forum is to have fun with fashion. If you aren't having fun, then whatever you need to do, do it!

    The hoodie is really pretty, I like how you accessorised with the scarf, and the green socks are a fun touch.

  • LACeleste replied 3 years ago

    Hi Anna,

    You look cool, pretty, and cute which in my book is a grand slam.

    Exceptional boots!!!!

    You make the forum more fun (as well as educational) for me and I miss you.

  • rebekahphoto replied 3 years ago

    love the touches of green! (especially since im a march baby) & it is a good color for your complexion. 
    I have always enjoyed your WIW. For me the best style takes risks, and I think you take many risks in supporting unique designers, combining interesting silhouettes and mixing from items all sorts of price points.
    I enjoy seeing designer pieces on a real person, and not just on a fashion web page or magazine, on a model!  
    While I find its useful to define a style, sometimes for me its fun to just experiment, failures and all. My style crosses quite a few descriptors, and I think that is just fine. 
    I do think people can get wrapped up in judging others. 
    Who knows if I had an available $1000, would I buy a fancy item of clothing? or take a trip? or would I worry what other people would think of my spending choice? I would hope that I would do what I felt was best, and not worry about what others would say. and I would feel fine wearing whatever label I wanted, and if the logo shows well so be it! 
    So I hope to see more of your WIW, that you keep "styling to your own beat" I It's inspiring others to find what really makes them happy and just go for it!

  • Angela K replied 3 years ago

    As a newcomer to the forum, I am sorry to hear that you aren't enjoying your participation.  I am not the type to only go after "brand" names, if there is something I truly love and it's high quality I might pay a little more for it but prefer to shop sales and thrift, consignment and vintage stores.  I enjoy seeing what others do with designer/name brand items and try to copy cat their outfits on my budget.  I hope you will rethink leaving and give it another go! Either way I hope that you continue to have fun and express creativity through your wardrobe.  Best wishes! 

    BTW: Totally love the boots! especially with the sock! :)

  • Greyscale replied 3 years ago

    I'll be very sad if you go, because your outfits are some of my favorites here - especially because I like a lot of the same labels. So it's good shopping inspiration for me. I'm glad you tell us what you're wearing.

    And if course I am still in love with those boots!

  • ironkurtin replied 3 years ago

    I must have missed that judgey trend, but various opinions do pop up now and again on the forum.  Personally, I always post my brands.  I love my brands!  If people are judging, I haven't heard much about it.  Also, I really don't care. 

  • MsMary replied 3 years ago

    Anna, that cream hoodie has to be my very favorite piece of yours, ever.  I just want to reach through my monitor and pet it!  LOL

    I hope your break will be brief!  As I always say, if you didn't exist around here we would have to invent you!

  • carambola replied 3 years ago

    I love the variety your outfits bring to the forum and will miss your posts if you go.

  • Mo replied 3 years ago

    I was just thinking "ooh, another Anna post" when I clicked on your link.  I'm sorry you feel on the edge, but I totally understand.  And yes, there does seem to creep in a little 'tone' here and again.  I am also not the MOTG, or career gal or just woke up from a slump of no fashion for a decade.  Just to let you know, I 'get' you ;)    
    Glad to see that sweater is getting a work out already!  Love it. 

    EDIT: and I just read one of those ridiculous You're Too Old to Wear ____ articles online and realized I do most of all of the tut tuts.  And I don't care.  I don't look tacky or like I'm trying soooo haaaard to compete with teenagers.  It's just what I like.  So, BE YOU!  And love it!

  • Catnip replied 3 years ago

    Hi Anna,
    I'm new here and don't know you or anyone else that well yet.  Nevertheless, I will be sad if you leave.  You have a truly unique style and I love looking at it... and learning from it.

    I may be wandering into a minefield here, but it's a part of human nature to be envious when others have more than we do.  Some of us do better at curbing this envy than others.  That said, I think most of us would agree that real style cannot be bought.

    One of the reasons I decided to join this forum was the wide variety of members, people from different countries, different ages, different ethnic groups, different occupations, each bringing her own contribution to the whole.  I don't know where else you can find such an interesting mixture of points of view.

    It appeared to me that you all get along, and that's remarkable and quite wonderful.  I hope that continues to be the case.

  • rachylou replied 3 years ago

    Just love that green :)

  • Angie replied 3 years ago

    Festive green bookending. Creative, seasonally appropriate, and fun. I love it. 

  • Debra replied 3 years ago

    Hi Anna, another look I love " green socks" what can I say :)
    I hope you hang in here and don't be put of by negative comments !!!!!!!!
    I love your look.I couldn't pull it off with your style but alway look for little bits I might try, I'm having fun with fashion and you are part of my inspiration :)

  • Suz replied 3 years ago

    Sorry you're not feeling good about the forum, Anna. Love your creative outfits, this one included. 

  • Astrid replied 3 years ago

    I'm also sorry you're not feeling good about the forum, but I think if you have to participate less to keep having fun with fashion that's alright too. Love the outfit, especially the green socks peeking out!

  • shedev replied 3 years ago

    I get what you are feeling, Anna. I sometimes feel like the spanner of the forum. While others are cutting their hair, I'm growing mine. Others are looking for polish, I seek rateness. It took me about a year to appreciate things I'd hate on me within the context of other styles. Now I love to see all the different ways we interpret fashion. I like it when people post where they got stuff. The mix of high and low is always interesting.

  • catgirl replied 3 years ago

    Well it's thanks to you that I've been introduced to the joys of higher end shopping. As for changes in the forum I am not sure what you mean and some specifics may help if it is a real problem. I have not seen more negativity or judgment lately but I'm also around less.

    I would miss you! But you need to put yourself first.

  • Janet replied 3 years ago

    Gah, those boots are fabulousness. It's great to see you post. 

    I agree with Greyscale and IK. I'm not a MOTG, an UWP, a knight or a prince either. Do ya thing, girl, and stick with us. You help inspire others whose style is a little more outside the mainstream to keep participating. 

  • catgirl replied 3 years ago

    Just to add, those style categories to me are a tool for helping some of us hone and focus our style. Some don't need or want that definition - others like me would flounder without set guidelines. It's similar to the body type guidelines that can be followed or ignored by each person. Do people see them as something more than that?

  • K. Period. replied 3 years ago

    Anna, your outfit looks great.  Fun and interesting and boundary pushing.  

    I too hope you won't be away for too long. I value your opinion and will miss your insights! You always let me know when I've pushed into new, edgier territory and you always have been very kind in your redirection when something was a little off and I was asking for feedback.  I love that.  I love your outfit posts too because you show me how a maximal, edgy, fashion forward style works.  

    Is your blog going to be active? Will I be able to get my Anna fix there? I might be willing to let you take a vacation from us if it is and I can.  ;)  Really, though, I'm hoping you will reconsider.  Your participation makes this blog a better and more multidimensional place.  If we were all UWP and princes or all MOTGs and Modern Classics, we'd be a pretty stale place.  Seeing all the UWPs, princes, MOTGs, Modern Classics and Ultra-Fashionistas (that's you to me, btw, a fashionista crossed with a bit of the Clockwork Orange/punk edginess) inspires me.  It also gives me an outlet to see things with an aesthetic that I love (your shoes) worn well, even if they are things that don't practically work well in my wardrobe.     

  • donnat replied 3 years ago

    i hope your break is short. I think this forum needs your diversity. I like seeing your posts and i kind of feel like i know you. I would be sad to see you go.

  • Mo replied 3 years ago

    If you hold down the edgy trendy designer end of the spectrum, I'll keep filling the more casual than anyone else but still trying to be stylish side of things ;)  Deal?  We need the variety.  Or at least I need the variety!  
    Una, I think it's just more of a sense of a few pervasive styles Anna is alluding to.  I could be way off base of course.  I also believe a few threads have gone further than, "that's just not for me" and smack of a judgement or assumed intent behind others' dress.

  • Diana replied 3 years ago

    You look great!  I love the new cream cashmere hoodie. 

    I would also be sad if you were to leave the forum for good.  I hope that you will at least keep posting your outfits either here or on your blog for us to see.  I really enjoy seeing something different from the norm, especially since I don't really think my style fits into one of the currently prevailing categories here either.  (Which if you think about it is kind of funny, because you and me, we are two of Angie's original style categories, the Trendy Fashionista and the Arty Eclectic.  Just sayin'.) 

  • Jacky replied 3 years ago

    First, I just want to say that your outfit is great and you look fantastic!

    Second, I'm pretty new to the forums, so I haven't seen a lot of anyone's posts, but I do love that you have a different style from a lot of the people here - variety is really important and I think it's both enjoyable and really important to be able to see things that are different from what we ourselves wear/are comfortable with. I'm not sure what categories I fall into either, but I think my style is pretty different as well! That said, you should definitely do what's best for you, and I'm sorry that participating in these forums isn't it. Hopefully your break will be short and if and when you come back, it'll be a better place for you.

  • catgirl replied 3 years ago

    I would also be surprised if UWP was a prevailing style here or elsewhere - I mean, I am the only person I know in my day to day life who dresses like me.  Every one of us has our individual spin, and Anna, you bring so much to the table.  At the same time, I don't want to be coaxing you back into the forum if you really need a break! 

    Also, this - if everyone who felt "different" departed the forum, who would be left?  I think it's pretty diverse here compared to the real world (or at least my real world).

  • Isis replied 3 years ago

    Love this! Who knew cozy and avant-garde could coexist? Perfection! I love that I have met you irl....gives extra depth for me to your posts!

  • Caro in Oz replied 3 years ago

    i don't know what to say right now Anna but I'm glad you told us how you feel. You need to do whatever works for you of course but it would be sad to have you leave because you feel judged.

  • MsMary replied 3 years ago

    Coming back to say my mother used to say "consider the source," which I think is extremely good advice in this particular instance.  ;)

  • Jjsloane replied 3 years ago

    I like this a lot (and I'm not any of those things either, well sort of MOTG but nevermind..) I love the hoodie and the shoes of course. I would miss living vicariously through your shoes! I like the wsh of the jeans (even if the cut is not what I personally would wear - they look nice on you) I have a similar scarf (mine is a gift from SIl - DVF green leopard print) and I think it's a good color on you.

  • Deborah replied 3 years ago

    Anna, I would be disappointed for you to pull back form the forum. You have introduced me to designers and retailers I had never heard of and you have been instrumental in my developing knowledge if all things fashion and I am very grateful for that. I hope I have never communicated judgement because I am thrilled to live vicariously thru you;). My budget commitments are different to yours but I share your joy and live if beautiful things and experience nothing but happiness that you are in a position to buy what you like. Don't go ;)

  • Nicole D replied 3 years ago

    If it weren't for you, I would never have discovered LD Tuttle.
    And I adore the green socks!  The possibilities are endless with those shoes. Fishnets would look good

  • CocoLion replied 3 years ago

    You look so good in this casual outfit.  You're looking quite willowy, how do you do it with all of the holiday parties and Christmas candy around?

    As for your style and the forum -- you know I love your outfits, your sense of fashion, your wardrobe and your dedication to quality brands as well as good design. 

  • annagybe replied 3 years ago

    Ahh, Thanks. Seriously y'all are amazing. I think I just need a break. 
    I think things will be better after the holidays. 
    Though I will probably post tomorrow's outfit, because it's my one shot at festive dressing this year. 

  • K. Period. replied 3 years ago

    Okay.  I'm reconciled. But only if you absolutely swear that you will check in occasionally and comment on any WIWs that I post. Okay? And check your messages. *mwah*

  • Karie replied 3 years ago

    Oh no, please don't go! I love to read your outfit posts.  I don't fit into any of those categories you mentioned either, I just like to have fun with fashion, and I like to see how others have fun with fashion. Fashion is like art - I might not buy the painting to hang in my home, but I can appreciate its creativity and style. Variety is, after all, the spice of life.

    Have fun with fashion and I hope you keep posting.

  • Aubergine replied 3 years ago

    Just belatedly adding to the list of people who really, really don't want to see you go.

    I haven't been posting that long, but I've been lurking for a while, and your posts are some of the ones I've always clicked on right away. I sometimes see the edgiest, most high-fashion looks as almost existing in a parallel universe that has nothing to do with the Ann Taylor Loft cardigan-fest that is my wardrobe, but seeing your outfits makes them a little more accessible to me and lets me learn about brands I'd never have known about. And you have one of the best boot collections I've ever seen!

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